Chloe Clips

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This little gal can light up a heart. Chloe has been in my life 3 years, 2 months, and 17 days. I really can’t remember what life was like before her. Maybe I was wrapped up in a DIY project, going on a run, not eating dinner until 8PM, attending art festivals, looking for treasures at flea markets, strolling the aisles of Target for hours, going to happy hour turned happy night, possibly even watching what I wanted on TV. Those were days, but they weren’t the days. No, the days are now. They’re the day I pick Chloe up from school and we go for an evening swim at the neighborhood pool in our tutu swimsuits (er, beach club yeah it’s pretty sweet), ride our bikes home or it’s the day we goof around taking silly face selfies; followed by a nap cuddling together. One of my favorite days is when we go to my parents lake house and water color on the porch, wine glass and paint brush in hand, it’s that moment that I can’t imagine what else I would be doing. It’s these small moments in long days that I’ll one day look back on and say, “those were the days.”

So as a reminder to myself and other to-do list, calendar crazed moms who can’t remember the last time they took a bath in peace, heck even to the bathroom, stop and think what did you do before kids? Whatever you recall quickly and remember fondly—try to build that back into your life. And as for the, “Oh yeah, I used to do that.” memories. Let those things go. Keeping a sense of self while sensing your kids may be burning something is a true skill. Being a mom is hard. Being selfish is easy. Learning to be a mom who can raise humans while also doing things for herself and not feeling guilty about is necessary. Keep it up mamas and make it day you’ll remember.

Advice

I just had to share this article that a friend passed along recently. It’s a great read. One where you need to chew on the words, look at the sentences over and over, and then stand up from the computer and walk to a window or nearest door. Lots of good thoughts and reminders that apply to anyone, no matter the direction they’re headed or not headed. Enjoy.

 

“You ask advice: ah, what a very human and very dangerous thing to do! For to give advice to a man who asks what to do with his life implies something very close to egomania. To presume to point a man to the right and ultimate goal— to point with a trembling finger in the RIGHT direction is something only a fool would take upon himself.

I am not a fool, but I respect your sincerity in asking my advice. I ask you though, in listening to what I say, to remember that all advice can only be a product of the man who gives it. What is truth to one may be disaster to another. I do not see life through your eyes, nor you through mine. If I were to attempt to give you specific advice, it would be too much like the blind leading the blind….”

Read the rest. 

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